So, You Say You’re Getting Married? Remember It Takes Two To Tango!

You’ve heard of the tango, haven’t you? If so, you’ll know that it is an intricate dance in which a man and a woman must anticipate and relate to one another in perfect unison.

If they don’t communicate well, their steps will falter. It takes two people of like mind and spirit to dance the Tango well. Moving together as one entity, theirs is a marriage of the body and the soul.

A good marriage is like the tango. In a healthy relationship between a husband and wife, communication is the key element to happiness. Caring and compromise are most vital to the kinds of communication that will lay a solid foundation upon which to build a successful marriage.

Success, in any endeavor; whether it be business, athletics or arts related; whether it is raising children you can be proud of or striving to have a great relationship with your mate, is hard work. Don’t let anyone kid you!

In marriage, as in business, you and your partner are working together, striving to attain the same goals. Anything worth having is worth working for.

Of course, when your relationship is still being controlled by your physical attraction, your perception…the way you see your potential mate can be just a wee bit clouded. The fact is, as the saying goes, “Love is blind”.

All of a sudden, before the honeymoon is even over, you start noticing that the person you believed to be so perfect for you, in actuality falls just short of perfection. When the honeymoon ends, the most important phase of your marriage begins. This is the time to start building that solid foundation. One which will withstand the test of time.

First, realize that it is o.k. to disagree with each other. Remember, you are two individuals who’ve already formed most of your opinions, your likes and dislikes, long before you became a couple. Be considerate of each other’s feelings but don’t forget your own. Be a good listener but don’t be shy about expecting your partner to pay attention to your likes or dislikes. Treat each other with equal importance and respect.

Don’t blame your spouse for your feelings. Your feelings are your own. Your emotional responses to certain situations have been formed over all of the years of your life. Nobody but you can make you feel mad or sad or happy. You alone, are in control of your responses.

There will be times of joy and there will be times of strife. This is as inevitable in a marriage as it is for the sun to rise and set. Never let the sun go down on your anger. If you sleep immersed in anger all night long, bitterness will grow and fester inside of you like a wound that won’t heal.

Remember these two words, “I’m sorry”. You don’t always have to be the one who is at fault to say I’m sorry. Having a good relationship is a lot more important than having the empty “satisfaction of always being right”.

Take a good look at your priorities. Your marital relationship should be number one on the list. Say, “I love you” and mean it. Smile and laugh spontaneously. Touch and hug each other several times a day. Nothing is more important than your marriage, but don’t neglect the other special people in your life. Your friends and family members will be of vital support in times of joy or sorrow.

If you are on the threshold of tying the knot with that special someone, you are about to engage in the most important event of your life. Oh, sure, if you decide later that you made a mistake, it’s easy these days to get a divorce. Too…too easy. A lifetime commitment to another person involves a lot of hard work. It involves taking a lot of effort to get to know and understand that other person.

All of these thoughts were swirling around in my head the day I wrote “Today, You’re Getting Married”. If just one couple who is about to pledge their marriage vows hears the words to this song and benefits from them then I will have not written it in vain.

In this age of “disposable marriages”, something powerful is needed to make people think more seriously about the magnitude of this most profound expression of their love for each other. There are no other wedding songs available for people to choose from which concentrate on the vows of marriage. “Today, You’re Getting Married” was written specifically with that purpose in mind. Here are the lyrics…

Verse 1

Today, You’re getting married.
Today’s the most important day of your life.
Forever more, you will be husband and wife.
Through thick or thin…
Through joy or strife…
This promise of love is for life.
Today…you’re getting married.


Here you stand…
Look inside your hearts.
Please understand, this love
That you are starting is so
Different from the rest.
This love will be the best
You’ve ever known.
You can’t go wrong as long
As you have each other.
This marriage is forever.

Verse 2

Today, You’re getting married.
In just moments you will say, “I Do.”
Promise to always keep your love brand new.
If to the vows of marriage you’ll be true,
This love will see you through.
Today…you’re getting married.


You’ll share your lives forever.
Your hopes and dreams,
You’ll build together…together.

Repeat Chorus

© 2010 Sybrina Publishing

This song would be perfect during the ceremony just before the preacher says the words, “Dearly Beloved…”. The instrumental section of the song is included on the MP3 file so that a bride may have her chosen soloist perform it in her wedding ceremony. If a soloist is not singing during the ceremony, the Vocal version, sung by Sybrina, may be incorporated into the taped music you are using for your wedding. Listen to it now at