So, You Say You’re Getting Married? Remember It Takes Two To Tango!

You’ve heard of the tango, haven’t you? If so, you’ll know that it is an intricate dance in which a man and a woman must anticipate and relate to one another in perfect unison.

If they don’t communicate well, their steps will falter. It takes two people of like mind and spirit to dance the Tango well. Moving together as one entity, theirs is a marriage of the body and the soul.

A good marriage is like the tango. In a healthy relationship between a husband and wife, communication is the key element to happiness. Caring and compromise are most vital to the kinds of communication that will lay a solid foundation upon which to build a successful marriage.

Success, in any endeavor; whether it be business, athletics or arts related; whether it is raising children you can be proud of or striving to have a great relationship with your mate, is hard work. Don’t let anyone kid you!

In marriage, as in business, you and your partner are working together, striving to attain the same goals. Anything worth having is worth working for.

Of course, when your relationship is still being controlled by your physical attraction, your perception…the way you see your potential mate can be just a wee bit clouded. The fact is, as the saying goes, “Love is blind”.

All of a sudden, before the honeymoon is even over, you start noticing that the person you believed to be so perfect for you, in actuality falls just short of perfection. When the honeymoon ends, the most important phase of your marriage begins. This is the time to start building that solid foundation. One which will withstand the test of time.

First, realize that it is o.k. to disagree with each other. Remember, you are two individuals who’ve already formed most of your opinions, your likes and dislikes, long before you became a couple. Be considerate of each other’s feelings but don’t forget your own. Be a good listener but don’t be shy about expecting your partner to pay attention to your likes or dislikes. Treat each other with equal importance and respect.

Don’t blame your spouse for your feelings. Your feelings are your own. Your emotional responses to certain situations have been formed over all of the years of your life. Nobody but you can make you feel mad or sad or happy. You alone, are in control of your responses.

There will be times of joy and there will be times of strife. This is as inevitable in a marriage as it is for the sun to rise and set. Never let the sun go down on your anger. If you sleep immersed in anger all night long, bitterness will grow and fester inside of you like a wound that won’t heal.

Remember these two words, “I’m sorry”. You don’t always have to be the one who is at fault to say I’m sorry. Having a good relationship is a lot more important than having the empty “satisfaction of always being right”.

Take a good look at your priorities. Your marital relationship should be number one on the list. Say, “I love you” and mean it. Smile and laugh spontaneously. Touch and hug each other several times a day. Nothing is more important than your marriage, but don’t neglect the other special people in your life. Your friends and family members will be of vital support in times of joy or sorrow.

If you are on the threshold of tying the knot with that special someone, you are about to engage in the most important event of your life. Oh, sure, if you decide later that you made a mistake, it’s easy these days to get a divorce. Too…too easy. A lifetime commitment to another person involves a lot of hard work. It involves taking a lot of effort to get to know and understand that other person.

All of these thoughts were swirling around in my head the day I wrote “Today, You’re Getting Married”. If just one couple who is about to pledge their marriage vows hears the words to this song and benefits from them then I will have not written it in vain.

In this age of “disposable marriages”, something powerful is needed to make people think more seriously about the magnitude of this most profound expression of their love for each other. There are no other wedding songs available for people to choose from which concentrate on the vows of marriage. “Today, You’re Getting Married” was written specifically with that purpose in mind. Here are the lyrics…

Verse 1

Today, You’re getting married.
Today’s the most important day of your life.
Forever more, you will be husband and wife.
Through thick or thin…
Through joy or strife…
This promise of love is for life.
Today…you’re getting married.

Chorus

Here you stand…
Look inside your hearts.
Please understand, this love
That you are starting is so
Different from the rest.
This love will be the best
You’ve ever known.
You can’t go wrong as long
As you have each other.
This marriage is forever.

Verse 2

Today, You’re getting married.
In just moments you will say, “I Do.”
Promise to always keep your love brand new.
If to the vows of marriage you’ll be true,
This love will see you through.
Today…you’re getting married.

Bridge

You’ll share your lives forever.
Your hopes and dreams,
You’ll build together…together.

Repeat Chorus

© 2010 Sybrina Publishing

This song would be perfect during the ceremony just before the preacher says the words, “Dearly Beloved…”. The instrumental section of the song is included on the MP3 file so that a bride may have her chosen soloist perform it in her wedding ceremony. If a soloist is not singing during the ceremony, the Vocal version, sung by Sybrina, may be incorporated into the taped music you are using for your wedding. Listen to it now at http://www.sybrina.com/index_Wedding_Song_Today_Getting_Married.htm

Getting Married? How to Become More Prepared

The truth is there’s no definite way on how to prepare yourself for your upcoming wedding. However there are steps you can follow to ensure you can keep disasters at bay. You can begin with the following:

1. Schedule your wedding properly. Unless there’s a definite reason why you should hurry it up, have the wedding at least 6 months after the engagement. If it’s possible, schedule it a year after. This will give you enough time to tackle all aspects of the occasion, from the sending of invitations to catering, among others.

2. Know who you want to come. The guests can sometimes cause you headaches, and that’s sometimes sad. After all, these are dear people to you. It therefore becomes important you can create a guest list. Determine who you want to come to your wedding. Make sure you can be clear with the details. If you don’t want them tagging along somebody else, then say so.

3. Determine how much you’re willing to spend. Setting up a wedding can be very costly. It’s not uncommon to spend close to $10,000 for just a very simple affair. It becomes higher if you’re picky with a lot of things. Early on, before you start deciding on what to wear or where the venue is, have a good idea how much you want to spend for the wedding. There are several guidelines you can download online to have a clearer idea of the amount.

4. Keep yourself healthy.Any wedding planning is stressful for both parties, and too much stress can take a toll on the body. You will find yourself catching colds so easily, or you immediately get tired. It is because stress can dampen your immune system.

You want to keep your health in check at all times, especially during wedding preparations. A day doing nothing for the wedding planning will force you to work harder in the coming days. Besides, taking care of oneself will help you look much better on your wedding day. Take your vitamins and minerals religiously, eat the right kinds of food, and exercise.

5. Share the load. A lot of men will leave the decision-making process to their future brides. Honestly, that should not be the case. Sharing the wedding preparations can greatly reduce the stress for all parties involved. If you can afford it, hire a wedding planner. If you can’t, request assistance from friends and family. Surely they would love to take part in the planning process.

6. Learn to motivate yourself. Like any type of planning, there will be a number of drawbacks. It’s just a matter of convincing yourself to go on. In this case, you can utilize subliminal messages. The subliminal messages can further enhance your mind-set, making you believe you’re confident enough to beat the stress. Some of the subliminal messages frequently used by those getting married are the following:

I am looking forward to my wedding.

I don’t let the setbacks deter us from the plans.

I can develop a clearer mind so I can decide well for the wedding.

Getting Married? Great! Here’s What You Should Know

Are you getting married soon? If so, then you will stand to benefit from the tips given in this article. I know how it feels to plan for getting married and having to rush things to get things in order. But you should know that it doesn’t have to come down to this. You can have an organized wedding and do it all on a shoestring budget.

It doesn’t matter if you’re getting married and you want to have a large or small wedding. You will stand to benefit from the tips in this article. I have helped many brides-to-be with their wedding plans and I can help you also. Let’s take a look at the first marital tip for you if you’re getting married soon.

1) Don’t break the bank

I know that getting married can get expensive but you should know that you don’t have to break the bank to do so. Getting married is a special event that should be all about dollars and cents. Instead, the love should be the main focus and if you can keep this in mind, you’ll be good to go.

You have to remember that getting married is a one-time thing. It will more than likely happen just once in your life so you don’t have to break the bank in order to have the wedding that you desire. In fact, you should try to learn how to plan a wedding on a shoestring budget just so that you can have a lot of money left over for the honey moon.

If a shoestring wedding doesn’t sound like a good idea for you, then there’s always the courthouse. Lol no I’m just kidding, just kidding. If you want to have a grand wedding, then you will obviously have to have your ducks in a row. Also, one of the first things that you will want to consider is if you want to hire a wedding planner or not.

2) Should you hire a wedding planner?

Wedding planners can be of tremendous help to you. A wedding planner should be your eyes and ears of the wedding. If weddings had a director like movies do, then your wedding planner is your director. Obviously they can be a good help for you but you will have to consider the cost of hiring one.

If you’re getting married and have recently got engaged, then the time to consider a wedding planner is now. Hire a wedding planner that has a lot of experience and years in their work because you want your wedding to be the best day ever – so keep this in mind when considering a wedding planner.

Now that you know what to consider, it’s time to go and get your marriage in motion.

Good luck with getting married and planning the wedding that you desire.