How to Know If He Is Right For You Without Getting Married

So you’ve been involved with someone and you want to know if if he is the right one for you before getting married. An acquaintance of mine accepted her boyfriend’s marriage proposal although they had only been together for two months. Granted, it could have been love at first sight. At least that’s’ what I thought until see told me she accepted because she is thirty years old, considers herself unattractive, and might not receive another married proposal for as long as she lives. Her family felt very uneasy about him, especially when he demanded she spends less time with them. Sometimes we can get so blinded by love (and other things that we might think is love) that we fail to grasp the obvious. Ladies, in my effort to assist you in determining if he is right for you, I’ve provided some tell tale signs below.

Is he extremely jealous of your relationship with others? Is he critical and often says mean spirited things? Does he get easily agitated? Does he insist on having everything his way,and doesn’t seem to care about your opinion? This is the portrait of a control freak. Stay away from him.

Is he a momma’s boy? I discussed the momma’s boy in depth in a previous article. To summarize, let’s just say you will never be first in his life. In spite of the fact he needs to be dedicated to you, mommy will always outrank you. You might think he will change when you get married, but chances are extremely thin that he will.

Is he financially responsible? You need to know what financial shape he is in before you walk down the aisle. You don’t want to find out after the wedding that he is behind in payments on the $8,000 in credit card dept he owes and his $68,000 in student loans, or that his car is just days away from being snatched and towed by the repo man. This is not a good way to start a marriage, and a sign of possible (actually very likely) financial misbehavior. I recommend asking for a copy of his credit report. You can casually bring it up by saying something like “I’m ordering my Credit report, when was the last time you looked at yours? Let’s order then together so we can see what we need to work on before we take our relationship forward.” Or something like that. Be creative. If he balks at the idea, he probably has something to hide.

Does he seem to care more about his career and position than you? Some men are overachievers (others like to think of themselves as such), and feel that getting married is merely a necessary occurrence that will make them a well rounded, respected individual. Here’s a glimpse into the future with this guy as your husband. He comes home from work, grabs the TV remote and says little, if anything to you and your children. You will be constantly trying to get him to open up and he will be constantly shutting you out. Regardless of your plea to him to communicate and at least tell you how his day was, he will fell no obligation to do so. He makes money to put a nice roof over your head, put the kids in private school, and take vacations at the family lake house every summer. Isn’t that enough? he asks himself. You and I both know it will not be enough. If you man seems emotionally reclusive, do not marry him. You will be his roommate, nor his wife.

Marriage is about sharing your lives together. The ups the downs, the triumphs, the defeats. Choose wisely who you plan to share your life with. If your instincts alert you to something that does not seem right about your boyfriend, pay attention to them. Don’t marry the wrong guy because you’re tired of waiting. Marrying the wrong man will be a lot more stressful than being single.

Places To Get Married And Have A Wedding Reception: Important Things To Remember

Brides and couples usually look for romantic wedding venues, affordable to cheap places to have a wedding, and even elegant high glossed enchanting wedding and reception halls and party rooms for the special day. Sometimes problems tend to arise on the wedding day just before the wedding because not enough attention was placed on the access points for the DJ or the band. It may seem to be a small unimportant issue, but be assured that if there is not adequate load in space and access, there just might be problems at the wedding and reception.

Here are the things to think about and consider when you are looking at places to get married and have the wedding reception.

1. The reason you want to ask about the load in area and access area to bring in band or DJ equipment is because the equipment is usually quite heavy. When a person or people have to maneuver through small doors and hallways and even through kitchens where the cooking is done, it can tire the band out before the wedding even begins.

Many wedding venues have easy access for the band and DJ as well as the wedding musicians, but there are many places that are pretty close to impossible for a band or DJ to bring equipment in before being completely worn out. Places like these usually make the band and DJ irritable because of fatigue before the wedding and that’s never a good idea. Make sure the musicians don’t have too much trouble getting in and setting up and they’ll have as much fun as everybody else.

2. If the wedding or reception will be upstairs, you’ll want to make sure there is an elevator that all the wedding vendors can have access to use. Imagine carrying heavy items or equipment up and down steps before and after the wedding. Some venues will not allow vendors to use the elevator and will say they have to take the stairs. Avoid places like these. They are too outdated and unreasonable.

3. Outdoor wedding venues should have outlets covered to protect from rain and bad weather. Nobody wants rain at an outdoor wedding but it occasionally does happen. Open uncovered outlets can be dangerous if it rains. Even if there is a tent to be set up, it’s still a good idea to check for covered outlets because on the wedding day if it does rain, there might be somebody that has to run an extension cord outside the tent or covering to an outlet that is not covered. Also be sure that outdoor wedding venues have electric outlets placed at a reasonable distance for extension cords etc. to be used. Otherwise you might need a generator and they can be noisy, especially when placed too close to a microphone of the band or DJ.

These are the most overlooked important things that couples miss when looking at places to have a wedding.

Best wishes on finding a great place to get married.

Getting Married in London – Why’s It the Best City?

Each year up and down the UK thousands of happy couples tie the knot and decide that embarking on the life journey in two is certainly more preferable than one! With so many different types of wedding formats available from country manor house to beach style and from village fete to weddings on a boat, the special day really can be as big or small as human imagination is creative and entertaining.

As someone that has spent a lot of time in one of the greatest cities in the world, London, I thought it would be good to explore what this city could offer couples that were considering it for their big day.

What can London offer couples on their wedding day?

Historic Venues – Brides who want a picturesque backdrop for their wedding ceremony will find many historic locations to choose from in London. Couples getting married in London may choose from royal venues like Kensington Palace or the beautiful gardens and buildings of the Royal Botanical Gardens in Kew.

Cutting Edge Fashion – London has always been at the cutting edge of fashion. London is also an exceptional city for shopping. Brides and grooms can shop for the latest bridal fashions from new or more traditional designers or hit the streets to stock up on the newest trends as part of their honeymoon.

World Class Chefs – Another perk of getting married in London is the number of renowned chefs and 5-star restaurants located in the city. Weddings in London are often catered by equally fashionable catering companies, providing guests of hotels for weddings in London with a memorable dining experience.

Creative Florists– Brides who want their weddings to have unforgettable d├ęcor can choose from a number of top florists familiar with weddings in London. Many high end London florists have provided arrangements for the upscale ceremonies of members of the royal family and other celebrities getting married in London.

Hotels for Weddings in London – With many historic and luxurious London hotels to choose from, brides, grooms, their families, and guests will be sure to find accommodations that suit their requirements. Many hotels offer ballrooms, banquet halls, and grounds for ceremonies, as well as honeymoon suites with many amenities and breathtaking views.

English Countryside – Couples planning weddings in London can have the best of both worlds by holding a ceremony in the bustling big city, staying at one of the many hotels for weddings in London, and then heading to the beautiful, relaxing, and convenient English countryside for a slower-paced honeymoon.

Tourist Attractions – Future couples and wedding guests will find plenty of attractions and sights to see in London, including art museums, historical sites, and cultural opportunities such as concerts and plays. For many families, travel to Europe can be a once in a lifetime experience. Take the leap and plan a wedding in a city that has an abundance of attractions to see and explore.